About My Work

I’m Roxana Cristina Alexandru, a trauma-informed holistic counsellor and astrologer.

My path into this work did not begin in a therapy room. It began during my years as a nanny and governess, where I witnessed how early experiences take root and how relationships shape a child’s inner world. I became a steady presence within the lived reality of family homes, immersed in the ordinary yet deeply significant moments of daily care that are so often overlooked.

I saw how meaning is formed and how safety is built. In after-school conversations, in tears before bedtime, in celebrations, conflicts and moments of repair. Long before any formal training, I was learning about attachment, emotional safety and the subtle language of the nervous system through consistent, attuned relational presence.

For eighteen years I worked as a nanny and governess, supporting children and families through seasons of growth, uncertainty, transition and deepening trust. I was invited into the everyday intimacies of family life, witnessing milestones, holding steadiness during challenges and offering a consistent, attuned presence as children developed emotionally and relationally. Those years shaped me more than I realised at the time. Over time, this work became more than care. It became a practice in attachment, nervous system awareness and quiet leadership, walking alongside families with sensitivity, discernment and long-term commitment.

When you spend that long in close relationship with developing nervous systems, you begin to see things differently.

I came to understand that safety is not something that can be insisted upon, but something that must be gently cultivated. That boundaries, when held with care, create security rather than limitation. That overwhelm does not ease through instruction alone, but through steady, attuned presence. I witnessed how early experiences imprint themselves in the body and how regulation is shaped in relationship, long before it is consciously understood.

Being part of those formative years inevitably turned the mirror inward. Supporting children with steadiness and attentiveness invited me to notice my own early adaptations with more compassion. It made me aware of the ways we all learn to protect ourselves, often intelligently, often necessarily, and how those protections can linger long after the original circumstances have passed. Gradually, I began to understand that healing is less about fixing what is broken and more about creating enough safety for what once had to protect us to finally rest.

My curiosity about psychology had always been there, running quietly beneath the surface, and over time it became clear that I wanted to study more formally. Yet I knew instinctively that I was not drawn to a purely clinical or diagnostic path. I was searching for something holistic, something that recognised that we think, yes, but we also feel, adapt and carry experience in the body.

Astrology was one of the first frameworks that gave me language for the inner world without reducing it, and it all started when I completed the Foundation Course at the Faculty of Astrological Studies in London. Over time I found myself especially drawn to evolutionary astrology, an approach that sees the birth chart not as a static blueprint but as a living map of the soul’s evolution. Its focus is on meaning rather than prediction, on understanding the deeper intentions shaping our life, why certain patterns repeat and how we are invited to grow through them. It does not label or confine, but instead opens space for reflection and deeper self-awareness. It honours development, growth and conscious choice as essential parts of our unfolding. Through this lens, cycles are not random and sensitivities are not flaws. They become expressions of a purposeful and evolving journey.

Astrology offered me a way to understand depth, timing and inner complexity in a way that felt both grounded and expansive, and it remains a meaningful and integrated part of how I work today. I am currently deepening my knowledge through the study of health astrology and psychological astrology, a parallel exploration into the relationship between body and psyche, and how symbolic awareness can sit alongside embodied understanding.

As my understanding of the inner world deepened through astrology, I found myself increasingly drawn to the body, to the ways experience is held not just in memory or meaning, but in breath, sensation and the nervous system itself.

Training in trauma-informed somatic counselling with the International School of Holistic Healing felt like a natural deepening of the path I was already walking.

The training was experiential and embodied. It asked me to cultivate regulation in my own nervous system before offering it to others. To slow down and attune to breath, posture and sensation. To understand how stress and trauma live in the body, not just in memory or narrative.

It strengthened my understanding of attachment and of the protective parts that form in response to overwhelm. It grounded me in the importance of pacing, consent and relational safety.

Above all, it shaped the way I hold space. With patience. With steadiness. With trust in the body’s innate movement towards healing when it feels safe enough.

I continue to learn through supervision, ongoing study and attendance at the Master Events in Oxford in 2024 and 2025, a trauma, mental health and wellbeing conference dedicated to advancing trauma-informed practice.

All of these threads now sit together within my work. Somatic counselling and astrology are not separate strands but complementary lenses, both grounded in the belief that we are complex, embodied and relational beings. I work in an alternative, non-traditional way, prioritising safety and regulation before depth, and approaching each person with steadiness and respect for their own rhythm.

I am an accredited member of ACCPH (Accredited Counsellors, Coaches, Psychotherapists and Hypnotherapists), a member of the Federation of Holistic Therapists (FHT), and I remain committed to ethical practice and continued reflection. I also attend weekly therapy myself, as I believe that holding space responsibly means continuing to do my own work.

If you are looking for a holistic, relational and gently held approach, you are warmly welcome here.